One of the reasons you can get stuck in situations that are not working for you is that you have no plan to get out.
Many people stay in a destructive relationship because they are afraid that if they get out they will be alone, unloved or unable to take care of themselves. Often they are people who others see as extremely capable or strong but in this one area, they are vulnerable to truly stuck.
Robert Kiyosaki writes about the four quadrants and states that you are only truly independent when you are a business owner or an investor. To be either you need a plan to prevent losing your shirt if something goes wrong. It is why business has insurance, does reporting and monitors campaigns and has key performance indicators for its staff.
A get out plan is called a stop-loss point in the sharemarket. It is that point at which you sell your stock regardless because if it continues going down you can lose a fortune.
A get out plan is something that every school child has – it’s called when I graduate from …. my life will begin.
Most employees have career plans which often include a get out plan that says when my boss no longer appreciates me I will get out and find one who does. And if I can’t find a boss who appreciates me then I will work for myself.
The unfortunate thing for many people who become self-employed is that fail to realize that their client is the boss and some of them are really impossible to please and rarely appreciate and pay your worth.
You want to believe that the job you take, the partner you find, the friends you make will be forever. Thinking about getting out is a no no. Why would you want to get out of a wonderful relationship or leave a great job or sell a business?
The answer is that over time your needs change. And unless the “relationship/job” changes too, you will get STUCK.
- It’s not about planning for failure but planning for growth.
- It’s about realising that one day your children will leave home and you need to think of what next.
- It’s about meeting your changing needs
- It’s about being happy
Do you have a get out plan or are you stuck?
Can you excel and grow or are you feeling trapped because you are fearful of what next or what you see outside the current situation is too unknown to take the step.
In my experience, your friends and family get tired of your whining about how awful things are. Plan to change. Plan to get out of whatever is making you unhappy.
And remember if you need help, ASK. You still need to act but if you are willing to make the change, people will help you.
To great growth through getting out
Zoomer Business Mentor at BUDZ Business Services