Hard to believe but it is six months since we moved to Tauranga, New Zealand. My husband and I were discussing whether we wanted to stay here with the lovley beaches, green spaces, minimal traffic and great people. My husband asked me what my plan was because I seemed to be drifting and not setting any goals and as he reminded me, “Goal setting without a plan seems a waste of time”. When there is no plan the goals are merely wishes, hopes or niceties.
What do you do to get a plan?
- First figure out what you don’t want.
- Next figure out what is essential to have.
- Next look at what you have now and put them either in the don’t want or essential category.
- Now you can start identifying the plan and putting in the goals (steps) to get there.
But until you do the first two, you are stuck where you are. Several recent clients know that things are not working for them but changing it means looking at what they don’t want and what they do want and then looking at what is happening. In several cases, the fear of losing out on something keeps them stuck in situations that totally are NOT working for them. One of them has four choices as to where to go but…it means letting go of some things. Money is one of those things (people owe her money). It’s not a lot in the scheme of things or in terms of her assets and wealth but it is an amount that sounds scary when you add it all up. She is also concerned about letting people down but funny these are the same people who let her down constantly, either by not keeping their word or by not paying her what they agreed when they agreed. And meanwhile her health gets worse. She is stuck and unable to take control but saying “No I can’t change”. In a previous blog, “A Powerful question to get out of stuck” , “Can I afford not to?” is a contra intuitive question with great power to help you get out of stuck and excel. Today’s blog takes it a step further, it asks you to look at what really matters to where you want to be. Wishes and hopes spur us on but a plan gives us direction and steps to move forward.
Today, get out of stuck and create a plan.
What do you really want? What don’t you want? What are you going to do about it? And remember ASK if you need help making those decisions. To your success