Are we always happy learning those lessons?
History seems to keep teaching lessons but we just may not be listening. Think about it for a moment. We know we should save. We know that fighting often leads to more problems. We know that bullying is wrong. We know that eating too much of the wrong foods over time causes us many problems.
So why do we not learn? We can learn some things in the classroom but we don’t always apply them. Is there a reason for this behaviour?
And that is the key word – BEHAVIOUR.
We all have different behaviour styles. We all act and react in different ways depending on our behavioural style and those styles can keep us stuck in patterns that provide little forward momentum.
Can you change your behaviour? Yes and no, its like changing your DNA. It is possible but expensive. But you can learn how to manage your behaviour and control your reactions.
And how you behave affects how people behave towards you. We all have a behavioural style and the challenge is how to use our style in group environments to get the best from the situation.
Expression of your behavioural style may differ depending on your circumstances but you may not always be able to modify your innate nature without really increasing your awareness of yourself.
So today, look at your behaviour and see if you keep repeating certain behaviours. What experiences are you learning from and what experiences do you miss the lessons on?
Sometimes, you just want to keep doing what you are doing but then ask yourself how is that behaviour serving you.
Think for a moment. When a child misbehaves, we may want to exchange the child for a different one but what we really want is for the child’s behaviour to change.
The key to learning from experience is not the lesson itself but the effect on your behaviour.
Behave today in a way that supports your purpose and keeps you out of stuck.