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Focus on the Big Purpose to Keep out of Stuck


Thanks today to my beautiful FB friend Samantha for inspiring this post. I just read her post “When the Right Doors Open: A True Passion for Acting” and while commenting I realized that for many people purpose is a difficult concept because they try to equate it to a career path or single mission.

Then I read an interview with Seth Godin, Why We Are All Artists: Seth Godin in Conversation – Part 1 talking about the release of his new book  We Are All Artists Now. In the book, we learn how others can control how we soar if we let them. I am looking forward to reading the book.

 How does this relate to Purpose?

Purpose is the why of anything. But the question I, and perhaps you, were asked as a child was “what do you want to be when you grow up?” What career, work or job do you want to do?

I answered a nurse and my mother promptly told me that I was too smart to be a nurse and I should aspire higher and become a doctor. She encouraged me to become a pediatrician. Well since my mother was wise, I agreed and studied hard to become a doctor. Unfortunately, circumstances conspired and I failed to become a doctor despite spending years working in hospitals as a volunteer and summer aide. No regrets, I love helping business owners change mindsets instead. It fits my bigger purpose.

I remember a friend who when told by his parents that if he didn’t study harder was told that he would become a rubbish collector. He promptly asked what they earned and why it would be so terrible to keep the city cleaned up. And today, he owns a large rubbish service business.

And I remember when my children were in primary school and they were asked what they would be when they grew up and my younger son was derided for wanting to be a lazy bum. This is the same son who now makes a huge difference supporting businesses and his local community both online and off.

 Why why is important?

Simply because when you know why you have passion and passion gives you energy and energy gives you power and power gets the job done.

And why is bigger than any career or job.

Why is the motive behind someone becoming a doctor, a lawyer, a banker, a pilot, a nurse, a mother or multiple roles.

Yes I know many of us become a role by accident rather than design but is it really an accident?

Do we take a job that could fulfill our why, our purpose but then choose to hate the role because others say it’s beneath us?

It constantly amazes me how many people in hospitality or retail hate what they are doing rather than realize that they may be fulfilling a purpose of helping people make decisions and enjoy an experience.

They get stuck by how others view the career or service and feel like what they are doing is worthless or all they can get. They get stuck because of the opinions of others.

 If your why has you stuck in a career you dislike

Reframe it.

Express your why differently.

Describe what you do in larger terms.

Instead of being just a teacher – say that you open up young minds or inspire development.

Instead of just being a doctor – remember that you are helping people enjoy life by helping them through physical or mental or emotional challenges.

Instead of being just a waitress – describe yourself as someone who creates memorable time outs and helps people recharge their batteries or celebrate and create special memories.

Instead of being just a sanitation worker – be the person who helps keep your city healthy, smelling nice and rat free.

Instead of being just a…… express it as something much bigger.

How can you express what you do today in a way that inspires you and keeps you out of stuck?

To your changing mindset and higher purpose

Roberta Budvietas Mentor

Roberta Budvietas, Change Agent








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  • Roy A. Ackerman, Ph.D., E.A. December 19, 2012, 2:35 pm

    I remember being taught that it made no difference what I would be- as long as I would be the best of that possible. Of course, I had already chosen a most unusual path (especially for an 8 year old, who typically desired to be a policeman or fireman)… But, my children were provided the same advice- each with their own choices, providing the best there is…
    And, yes, serving their “why” is the key.
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    • Roberta Budvietas December 19, 2012, 2:49 pm

      Thanks Roy – some children learn early and have parents who help them live purposeful lives and others…find it tough to find their why because they believe the hierarchy and others set the rules and conditions

  • Janette Fuller December 20, 2012, 4:45 am

    I also had a teacher in high school who said it doesn’t matter what you do as long as you are the best at what you do.
    I remember him saying, “If you are a garbage collector, be the best garbage collector in town!”
    Very inspiring post, Roberta!
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    • Roberta Budvietas December 20, 2012, 6:47 am

      Some of us were really lucky that we had people in our lives who saw beyond the obvious Janette. Have a purposeful and passion holiday season and in 2013 may all your bests come together for the wonder of all your friends and clients

  • Dori December 23, 2012, 7:19 am

    Thanks for your inspirational words, actually that’s what I’ve been searching for in the last couple of days when I came to your blog. Honestly, I’ve just lost my job and I think about going to be a freelances and work from home. But I’m afraid, I cannot make a decision and I feel that I cannot get out of that stuck…

    • Roberta Budvietas December 24, 2012, 5:00 am

      Hi Dori, thanks for visiting, The book Eat the Rhino, business idea to business plan in 30 days was written specifically to help people make this decision and also to help them see if they could make a living doing it. Get a copy and see how your life works out. And let me know. Freelancing is fun but can have some economic challenges unless planned right

  • Samantha Bangayan December 24, 2012, 7:06 pm

    Wow, Roberta! Firstly, thank you oh so much for mentioning me and my blog post. I love when our blog posts inspire each other and help each other see the bigger picture. =) I know your blog always opens MY eyes!

    I know I am highly sensitive to what others around me are commenting, and I think it’s partly why I feel much less stressed in Peru. People there are less judgmental about career as most are just trying to get by. And it’s more common to have various careers there. I really appreciate this advice being here in Vancouver again where the environment is exactly as you describe. Reframing is always a really effective exercise for me! =)
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    • Roberta Budvietas December 25, 2012, 9:31 am

      You started this one rolling Samantha and Seth Godin really got me going. It is a learned behavior to be able to avoid taking things personally and to also know that as long as you do your best and follow your heart, you have the right to keep on moving forward in faith and hope. Have a great Christmas

  • Andrew December 26, 2012, 6:42 pm

    This is really interesting as I have never thought like this before. I usually thought teaching is like instructing someone to follow me but now I feel its an interchange of ideas. The writing as hobby that I do was regarded by my parents as a waste of time but now I would tell them that if that writing be posted in blog in the web, it can be an addition to the treasure house of information worldwide. I would like to say the mouth organ lessons that I give not only will help me but also helping others get relief from stress and helping them physically also due to its therapeutic value. The social work I did for low salary or for no money at all has a higher purpose now, ok ok now I understand it is helping poor people and not only that I am understanding how to organize bigger projects in the future.

    • Roberta Budvietas December 27, 2012, 5:25 am

      Thanks for the comment Andrew. Yes. everything has a purpose but often we neither see it nor feel appreciated, acknowledged or accepted for who we are and what we do. And we often fail to accept others, acknowledge them or appreciate them. Little things make a difference and with the increase in dis-ease, it is important to focus on our purpose rather than what others think we are or should be.

  • Samantha Bangayan November 5, 2013, 11:26 pm

    These are such great examples, Roberta! The one about the rubbish collector is especially interesting to me because my dad recently ran into an old friend who owns various properties now, and all those investments were from years working with garbage – it pays well because it’s a public service job. When I think of it like that, I wouldn’t mind working with garbage either. =P But that’s when this post comes in to encourage me to reflect on my underlying purpose. I’m still trying to figure that one out, but I agree that it’s so important to dissociate “purpose” with a single label or career path. Our world is so much more 3-dimensional than that!

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