“I don’t know what I don’t know and that gets me stuck because how can I know what I can do” is a complaint of many business owners.
How can you ask for help or get information if you don’t know what to look for.
Everyday, some one somewhere is overwhelmed, stressed and stuck because they don’t know what they need to know. This leads to a condition called “Keep Mouth Shut and Do Nothing for fear of making a mistake”.
But the bravest people learn to ask this question of the so called experts, “Okay, if you were me, what else would you want to know about this situation? What else can you tell me that I haven’t asked yet?“ You don’t know what you don’t know but often the people you are talking to don’t know what you don’t know.
The world is full of assumptions that we all have the same base knowledge. But that is ridiculous. We know that is not true. Just look at your own family – they don’t know what you know and they live with you every day. How can people who you meet or advise you know what you know or don’t know? We teach our children to research and ask questions. But the answers you get are dependent on the quality of the question you ask when researching. We trust Google and Wikipedia but…how accurate are they?
Even getting the search right is a real challenge. We have a problem with our dashboard in our car. I googled for solutions and came up with nothing useful. My husband googled for a solution and came up with treating and feeding it with leather treatment. We used the same tool but came up with very different answers.
More dangerous is getting an answer that is only partly right. One of the most dangerous activities today is how many people use google to solve health issues. We get answers but are they right? They can often make us feel like we are dying or worse need serious urgent medical attention or no attention at all and yet what we have could be treated differently.
By the way the program HOUSE has validity. A few months ago, I sat in the doctor’s office covered in a rash. The doctor opened his special search engine to try to find out what was wrong with me. He narrowed it down to 3 possibilities but luckily the treatments were all similar. A few weeks later we went to the doctor for a recurring problem my husband had and this time the doctor found another possible diagnoses and solution. Hopefully now we have the right treatment and cause.
Have you heard of cases where the doctor or the hospital sent people home with the flu only to find out that they had meningitis or something else VERY serious – like they died within hours of going home.
Is there anything you can do when you don’t know or worse you feel that the people advising you don’t know?
3 Actions you Should take before you make your decision.
- If your stomach is hurting then stop and ask more questions and if your experts are unable to explain further, WALK or better yet RUN away and make no decision until you get better information
- If you feel stupid when the expert tells you what to do then they probably have not answered your questions or solved your problem. If after you get advice you feel belittled, demeaned or stupid then your “expert” has used their authority to overwhelm you and get you stuck in your own feelings of inadequacy or worse “stupidity”. Go find another expert and remember that you now know some more questions to ask.
- If everyone around you says to go along with their decision but you feel uncomfortable with the decision you are required to make then say NO and ask more questions. Peer pressure is a key reason we often get into trouble. Tell your peers to shut up until you can decide.
Until you feel comfortable with your decision, don’t make it.
And sometimes you need to fin a mentors or “trusted person” for more information on questions that you need to ask or people you can seek answers from.
To your success