No one likes to hear these words.
How serious the situation depends on several things including your age, your situation and your attitude.
I sort of remember the time when I was about three years old. I had a china faced doll with movable arms and legs. I’m unsure if anyone today would understand about these dolls. Sadie was like a real chubby little baby with lovely hair made from real human hair. She was my pride and joy but one day her arm came off. I was devastated. I cried and cried. My mother kept telling me it would be all right and my father would fix my baby but I just kept crying. When my father got home, he looked at my doll and took her to his workroom. We had dinner and it was time for bed but my bed companion was in the basement broken. I went to bed and cried myself to sleep. And when I woke up the next morning, there was my Sadie beside me in bed all fixed. My daddy was my hero.
I think every child has some memory similar to mine. As we mature, we face the it’s broken hundreds of times.
But today, as one of my grandchildren said, “It’s broken, throw it out.”
How we cope with it’s broken is important to our ability to get out of stuck. First we have to deal with the emotions around the broken thing. And those emotions can vary depending on the value or the inconvenience we put on the item broken.
Then we have to deal with the practicality of what will we do next. Will we fix it, throw it away or do nothing because at the moment we lack the resources to do something about the situation.
And once we decide we can take the next step to solve the situation.
But what happens when what is broken is necessary but unrepairable.
It is not an item but a relationship. It is a something that is important to us, something that we counted on like an income stream, the roof over our head, our family, our health or a friendship.
To stop from getting stuck by the broken things, relationships and situations in our life, I only have two solutions. The first is to stop and look for what I am grateful for about the situation. The second is to decide how much energy I want to put into finding the next steps.
What do you do?