They both prevent completion of the interaction. They both prevent the pleasure of a satisfactory exchange and the feeling of well-being. Message interruptus often occurs when there is a difficult conversations that start out with “I don’t know how to say this”.
There are many reasons but the two major ones are:
- You don’t want to hurt the other person
- You don’t want to be misunderstood and get hurt yourself
Words are Mightier than the Sword
- Words can hurt.
- Words can be success thieves.
- Words can steal our sense of control, well-being. purpose, happiness, value, esteem or self worth.
- Words can create pictures in our head that are often untrue, unintended or unclear.
Preventing Message interruptus
Tell the other person that the words are a problem but that what is important is that together you find an understanding.
Ask them for their patience and get them to restate what you are saying so that both of you understand the situation clearly.
Remember that words are a tool. But just as you can use a tool wrong and create a bigger problem, words can do the same thing.
And when you are trying to get a message across and you are struggling with the words, it is critical that patience is exercised on all sides
Because when there is no patience, “message interruptus” can occur. Interrupted conversations, adding words, completing sentences can prevent understanding and get the situation stuck.
So the next time you are stuck for words but need to get your message across, here are some things to do:
- Set the mood
- Get agreement that the conversation will continue until both parties are satisfied – no interruptions, no message interruptus
- Maintain eye contact
- Trust the process
Simple to say but it takes real commitment to get your message across without the other person interrupting and adding their own words.
I am guilty of “message interruptus” too often.
It does stop conversation because when you are stuck for words, the last thing you need is the other person’s. You need their encouragement and support to find your own words.
Finding the right words to express yourself can be hard. But if you find yourself in a conversation where words are difficult, both sides need to avoid the “message interruptus” so that you can get out of stuck and excel. New understanding results from avoiding message interruptus and allowing the words to be found and expressed.
Do you think that the world might be a better place if we had less message interruptus? Share this blog is message interruptus is something you would like eliminated in your world.
To your future