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Are there 100 ways to prevent getting stuck waiting?

Over the last few days I have been feeling really stuck waiting for people to complete things.

One of the greatest challenges working Waiting, waitingwith tertiary education providers is that they require the paper work to be submitted on time. Sounds like government departments – on time or fined. But in the case of the providers its on time or you fail.

Now the “fail” may have worked once upon a time but does it still hold the same fear?

Yes some people like to complete what they start but for many people, completing is only a reality if life keeps out of the way.

I have several students who are enduring those major hiccups that happen in business. You know the ones – the problems that consume you. There is nothing else you can think of because the problem needs to be worked on and overcome. Nothing else is real. There are no other deadlines. Whatever else you have committed to, matters no longer. You will sacrifice everything else to get through these problems regardless.

And I understand. I’ve been there. I’ve done that and I  have the T-shirt.

But do the “PTB” (powers that be) understand? Do they care?

And so I wait. You wait too. And I wonder,  how much of the way we live is waiting for others?

What kind of things do we wait for?

Some people wait for payday. While many of us wait for our debtors to pay us so we can pay our creditors.

Some people wait for the birth of a child, while others wait for the end of suffering of a loved one.

Whatever the reason, we can get stuck waiting. We can get stuck because in order to do the next step, another action by someone else needs to be completed. We are stuck because we are unable to control the events that give us the sense of power and control.

Did Obama and Romney have to wait for the polls to close in November before they knew who would be in office come January 2013?

Did you wait for the final kick, throw, pitch, toss or play in your favorite sports game to know which side won the game?

Have you ever sat outside a delivery room, an operating room or a board room waiting for a decision or outcome?

We all wait sometimes.

And when we wait, we can get stuck.

Stuck because we feel we lack control.

But control is a fiction.

There are only two things we really control.

We control our thoughts

and we control our actions. 

So as I wait and try to support and help others, I control my thoughts. I control those thoughts that they are causing me problems intentionally. I control the number of times I follow them up, but I do follow up. I control what I can control and move on with life.

And you need to control what you can.

One technique to control what I can do and think is writing.

Another really useful one is clearing out old files and books. It’s amazing that I manage to find just that resource I really want.

And one final option, move – walk, run, dance, explore or just do something fun and different.

We all wait. But we never have to be stuck waiting.

Share what you do when you are waiting?

Can we find 100 things to do to keep us from getting stuck while we wait?

To better mindsets

Roberta Budvietas Mentor

Roberta Budvietas, Change Agent

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  • Samantha Bangayan November 14, 2012, 1:24 am

    I so find this relevant here in Peru! There is so much bureaucracy that anything having to do with the government takes forever. The most recent adventure was trying to get my foreigner’s card. It took 3 trips to Lima and a lot of extended trips.

    During those waiting times in a foreign city, I’ve counted my blessings/made a gratitude list, meditated, started up a conversation with others who were waiting, reflected on and wrote down ideas for future blog posts, and ate. =) I especially like to take advantage of moments outside of Huancayo to enjoy good food since there’s so little variety here. =P Looking forward to reading more ideas from other commenters and thanks for yours, Roberta!
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    • Roberta Budvietas November 14, 2012, 4:41 am

      Thanks Samantha. Yes waiting for bureaucrats does provide lots of opportunity to practice patience and grow. Thanks for the ideas.

  • Janette Fuller November 14, 2012, 2:55 am

    We can only control our own thoughts and actions ~ So true. I always carry my Kindle with me so I like to read while I wait. When I am faced with longer periods of waiting, I like to go on long walks with my dogs.
    I just read a children’s book about how kids deal with waiting…I will post a review soon.
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    • Roberta Budvietas November 14, 2012, 4:43 am

      Thanks Janette. You just reminded me that children live in the now and forget so easily anything except what they are passionate about – like Santa, visit to Disneyland or something else really special and then waiting is hard. I look forward to reading the review

  • Bonnie November 14, 2012, 1:04 pm

    We have somehow come to equate waiting with doing nothing haven’t we? I am sure you know that I completely am on board with your thoughts on this. We have choice in what we think and do and this is where our control lies.
    Doing nothing while waiting is not a good choice. We all have times when we need to wait on a next step but that certainly doesn’t mean it’s the only thing we can do.
    Wonderful reminder to keep in mind our choices around how we react to any situation creates our life.
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    • Roberta Budvietas November 14, 2012, 2:50 pm

      Bonnie, I think the challenge comes for us when we plan to do x but because some person fails to do their thing, we sit in a precarious position and are unable to do anything more than keep control of our thoughts and actions.

  • Peggy Lee Hanson November 14, 2012, 1:07 pm

    Can we really control our thoughts? I’m not so sure. We can choose to listen to them or toss them aside; and I do believe they can have a mind of their own at times.
    Interesting concept of being stuck when we wait; well, of course we are stuck; what else can we do? There’s always something else to do, is there not? It’s our choice to sit and wait or to move on the next item.

    • Roberta Budvietas November 14, 2012, 2:51 pm

      Hi Peggy Lee. We have the choice how we wait but we may not always have the choice but to wait. When you taking action or completing a project depends on someone else doing their thing, we can get stuck being unable to do what we need to do.

  • Eszti November 20, 2012, 8:04 am

    The most disturbing thing in my life is waiting. I hate waiting for somebody. I think it’s wasted time and we don’t have too much from it. Force somebody to waste his time for you is like you didn’t respect his time.
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    • Roberta Budvietas November 20, 2012, 8:30 am

      Eszti, waiting is often a part of life but watch the word hating – generates too strong an emotion which is why I wrote the blog. Waiting is a part of life, but how we wait and the emotions we feel around the waiting can make a real difference to our lives

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