Over the last few days I have been feeling really stuck waiting for people to complete things.
One of the greatest challenges working with tertiary education providers is that they require the paper work to be submitted on time. Sounds like government departments – on time or fined. But in the case of the providers its on time or you fail.
Now the “fail” may have worked once upon a time but does it still hold the same fear?
Yes some people like to complete what they start but for many people, completing is only a reality if life keeps out of the way.
I have several students who are enduring those major hiccups that happen in business. You know the ones – the problems that consume you. There is nothing else you can think of because the problem needs to be worked on and overcome. Nothing else is real. There are no other deadlines. Whatever else you have committed to, matters no longer. You will sacrifice everything else to get through these problems regardless.
And I understand. I’ve been there. I’ve done that and I have the T-shirt.
But do the “PTB” (powers that be) understand? Do they care?
And so I wait. You wait too. And I wonder, how much of the way we live is waiting for others?
What kind of things do we wait for?
Some people wait for payday. While many of us wait for our debtors to pay us so we can pay our creditors.
Some people wait for the birth of a child, while others wait for the end of suffering of a loved one.
Whatever the reason, we can get stuck waiting. We can get stuck because in order to do the next step, another action by someone else needs to be completed. We are stuck because we are unable to control the events that give us the sense of power and control.
Did Obama and Romney have to wait for the polls to close in November before they knew who would be in office come January 2013?
Did you wait for the final kick, throw, pitch, toss or play in your favorite sports game to know which side won the game?
Have you ever sat outside a delivery room, an operating room or a board room waiting for a decision or outcome?
We all wait sometimes.
And when we wait, we can get stuck.
Stuck because we feel we lack control.
But control is a fiction.
There are only two things we really control.
We control our thoughts
and we control our actions.
So as I wait and try to support and help others, I control my thoughts. I control those thoughts that they are causing me problems intentionally. I control the number of times I follow them up, but I do follow up. I control what I can control and move on with life.
And you need to control what you can.
One technique to control what I can do and think is writing.
Another really useful one is clearing out old files and books. It’s amazing that I manage to find just that resource I really want.
And one final option, move – walk, run, dance, explore or just do something fun and different.
We all wait. But we never have to be stuck waiting.
Share what you do when you are waiting?
Can we find 100 things to do to keep us from getting stuck while we wait?
To better mindsetsRoberta Budvietas, Change Agent