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The Shocking Truth about Success

Success is a JOURNEY not a destination

Yet many people get stuck because they think that success is a destination.

This week I start a series of discussions about the words, thoughts and acts that we do to sabotage our success or worse prevent ourselves from ever feeling that success.

Here are a couple of small snippets of some of the ways clients sabotage their success:

 “I lack a degree so no one will take my bookkeeping service seriously”

 “I have no skills and am just too busy taking care of my children to do anything else”

 “I am too fat for people to take me seriously about dealing with personal health”

 “My big competitors offer low prices and I need to match those prices with my boutique business”

 “Selling is something I just can’t do, if only someone else would sell my service everything would be alright”

 “Technology is beyond me. I am unable to be online because I have no technology skills and am afraid that I will break something if I try to do anything.”

 “I’m too stupid to understand anything about…..(put in almost any topic).”

 “I don’t have the money to do that. If only I had the money I could….(put in something here that you would do).”

 In the comment box below add ones that stop you from enjoying your success. One of the one’s I caught myself saying over the past little while was “If only we had done…then things would be….”

Iconic screen shot from the movie It's a Wonde...

I watched the movie “It’s A Wonderful Life” on Christmas day. The movie is set in 1946 and Jimmy Stewart plays the lead character. Every time I see the story, I cry. George Bailey believes he would be better off dead and thinks his life has no meaning at all but Clarence, angel second class, shows George how his life ensured that the lives of hundreds of other people were better off because he had touched their lives.

 Now I am uncertain whether running a similar story in 2013 would have a similar outcome but I do believe that personally I have helped and changed hundreds of lives. Many have given me testimonials to this effect. Many others have gone on to do awesome things because I gave them a hand up or a hand out or in a few cases a swift kick.

Whatever, success is what you make it.

 If you live on purpose today with passion, you are successful.

 If you enjoy today and have some fun, you are successful.

 If you set a goal, a task or shared a special moment with another human being, you are successful.

 If you did your best, kept your word, assumed nothing, took nothing personal and regretted nothing today, you are successful.

 And if you made a difference in the world by helping another person, you are successful

 Join the discussion this week, either by posting below or joining me online this Thursday/Friday (depending on where you live).

Book here for the teleseminar What is stopping you from your success?

Believe in yourself. And remember SUCCESS is a JOURNEY. Once you arrive at one destination, you need to move towards the next one.

Get out of stuck and excel

Roberta Budvietas Mentor

Roberta Budvietas, Change Agent


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  • David Leonhardt January 8, 2013, 6:52 am

    In a discussion with a friend recently, he put my career in perspective thus: No matter what happens to me tomorrow or the next day, I spent the past decade with no boss looking over my shoulder. My journey (so far).

    • Roberta Budvietas January 8, 2013, 6:56 am

      And for many of us who are self employed that is so key. Thanks for sharing David. Interesting though – do you know that you have been watched though by many – your clients, your suppliers, your colleagues. They just have a different perspective than what a boss does? Whose perspective is more valuable though?

  • Kylie January 8, 2013, 7:51 am

    I love this article! Very inspirational.
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    • Roberta Budvietas January 8, 2013, 8:07 am

      Thanks Kylie but what in particular did you find inspirational? Please share how your language use to your success?

  • Liane Markus January 8, 2013, 12:27 pm

    We all want success and we all hope to be able to come up with the best solutions to grab that great opportunity in life. This story for me is very striking.
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  • Andrew January 10, 2013, 3:18 pm

    Thanks for posting this blog. I spent the past decade with no boss looking over my shoulder.
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    • Roberta Budvietas January 14, 2013, 5:16 am

      Andrew, that’s wonderful that you found your own passion. And there are no phrases or thoughts that ever hold you back?

  • Reka January 14, 2013, 1:35 am

    These are really the most common mistakes, I’ve already heard a lot of people repeating these phrases… there are many ways to sign your weakness, but there’s only one way to show you passion and skills…

    • Roberta Budvietas January 14, 2013, 5:15 am

      True Reka but many people forget that they need to show their passion because of these phrases. Do you know any other phrases that hold people back?

  • Kim January 16, 2013, 7:53 am

    Hi Robert, I totally agree with you, success might be a long always-changing process which can have milestones described as goals or resolution, but there isn’t any finish line, it’s all about passion.
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    • Roberta Budvietas January 16, 2013, 9:00 am

      Thanks Kim, I love passion because it keeps you on the journey until you reach the station but you need to keep moving or you can get stuck in a place that fails to support your ongoing development. If you look at your life as a train journey and each milestone a station, you need to get on and off the train until it reaches the stars and beyond

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